Is this acting?

Back again… explaining more about the month of September…

Nothing serious happened during the beginning of the month, most of the crap was on the table, most of the scream and shout was out, most of the hurt and pain was out, well it was out in the open. It wasn’t easy, nor was it easy to be in the same house daily, at least he made it bearable as he spent most of his time away from the house in pubs or at work or wherever he was (not sure how he spent his time)

The one thing I come to realize (which was never a problem but now knowing what I know it became a problem) was that every time I go to his work, or any work function I will have a very good chance of walking into them (well Lady 1 mostly, Lady 2 only at work functions). Lady 1 I saw daily whenever I entered the building (Unless she was off sick or something) anyway moving on, so like you know Spring is here and he then decided in the beginning of the month that he would like to go fishing (it use to be one of our favorite things to do together until it became something he never wanted to do anymore), well the both of us should go fishing. Don’t get me wrong, I like the hobby and I love being at the dam and being in nature, but at this stage it was really awkward, the emotions are running high and we hardly have any words left for one another, but I went, nothing a little bit of sun, water and nature can’t fix right?

So off we went fishing, the day before I had to buy all the things that had to go with, while he was working with Lady 1 – it was her weekend on duty, and even though he did tell me this trying to share this bit of information it didn’t mean anything (It will always be in the back of my mind, I will always question and search). So I run around, I got what I had to get and went home, amazingly he was early (and again I say this and it is very sarcastic I know, but please do understand where I am coming from, and yes I never gave him the benefit of the doubt for this and he did come home earlier), well for the last couple of years he has left the house very early and came home late and when I asked about it, the answer was always that he has been busy, work is hectic, he has a lot to do, please don’t start again asking all this shit… well I asked but guess what, I never got the true answer (at least now I know so much more than then, and am in a position to assume / come up with my own answers).. Okay back to the fishing, so the Sunday morning off we went fishing. The weather was kind of okay, it started off being cold and only cleared up during the day, but all in all it was a very pleasant day. We didn’t talk a lot, and most of the time both of us just sat there staring at the water, or rigging the fishing gear, drinking and then eventually we made food and ate. While we were there, we went to have a drink at the bar at the dam which was not really big or very entertaining, but there were a couple of people there as well. When we walked in, we selected a table and chairs away from the actual bar area as there were already a couple of men seated at the bar. We got our drinks and sat down talking about bits and bobs, but nothing that really mattered. While we sat there, some of the males noted that I was not wearing my wedding ring and talked amongst themselves, they wanted the youngest one in the group to introduce himself to me, but he didn’t just want to walk up with my husband sitting there (not that he knew it was my husband), anyway, so they announced very loudly the names of each male seated and said to my husband that if he needed somthing one of them will be able to help as they are from that area, and when it got to this guy they made really sure I knew who he was and how I would be able to reach him (telling me the company name he owns). I just laughed it off, but I could see that my husband didn’t see the joke in it. So I immediately finished up my dink, paid and asked that we go back to the fishing spot. While we walked down he said that he is pissed about the comments and want to go pick a fight and sort them out. So  I just said they didn’t know I was married because I wasn’t wearing my wedding ring anymore, we walked back, packed up and went home…

Another Weird Discovery…

So the Monday started with a bang and during the working day he asked me for the pin code for the little safe we have (a very small little thing that we put some stuff in, nothing major) I gave it to him but honestly it is also something he should have remembered and I left it at that (you would think that something someone use for 20 years he would remember right?). That afternoon when I arrived home, it was really strange as he was there before me (He is never so early that he is home before me), but I didn’t make anything of it (except for saying wow you’re really early). I greeted him, unpacked my car after being at the shop for milk and bread and stuff and started with the daily routine stuff to get it out the way. Feed the animals and provide water, then go wash up and start with dinner. While I was doing all of this, I could see he has been searching for something in the house, so I asked him if he is looking for something. He then said that he believes the house is bugged. Honestly, here I just lost it, I started laughing a bit, and when I asked him why he said that all the emails and notes he has been receiving obviously was discussed in private, he knows it is not his office, so the only other possible place is the home (he searched but didn’t find anything) after the preparation and cooking we ate, cleared up and as per normal went to our separate rooms for the night… BUT

About 2 days later, I had this nagging feeling that something was wrong and I just couldn’t put my finger on it, I was still looking for my power bank and I was looking for some of my jewelry that kind of went missing / misplaced, anyway I know just the weekend before he asked me for the pin, I looked in the safe and I couldn’t find anything in there, but decided that it was worth the try again (and I must be honest at this point I really became paranoid. Could the house be bugged?) So off I go after I got dressed for work the morning, and punched in the code *error*, okay maybe I had it wrong, punch in the code again *error*, okay wait I am sure it is the right code I even have it written down, so again I try *error* Locked out for 5 min, Oh come on man, what the hell, okay walk up and down, getting irritated, waiting my 5 minutes. So again key in the code *error* okay wait, maybe I changed it to something else (Not that I remember but hey lately things have been hectic so maybe I forgot I changed it. So I tried a different combination, *error* and another, *error* and so it continued till I locked myself out for about 30 minute wait. So I called him:

Him:       Yes (I have no idea why he think it’s okay to answer a phone like this)

Me:        Hi there, tell me did you manage to get in the safe the other day (which I figured he did)

Him:       why (I don’t understand why he always answers a question with a question)

Me:        I am having a struggle and want to get in but for some reason it doesn’t acknowledge the pin

Him:       I don’t know

Me:        I can’t seem to find the key for it either (which I know where I have put it and it’s not there)

Him:       I don’t know

Me:        Did you change the code? (that would not make sense right?)

Him:       Why would I do that? (and here I actually believed him)

Me:        I don’t know, but honestly, did you change the code

Him:       No

Me:        Okay I can’t get into the safe, and I have logged myself out, now I have to sit and wait

Him:       Leave it and go to work

Me:        No – I have to get in there; I want to get to my stuff

Him:       Why are you so eager to get in there?

Me:        My stuff is in there, you don’t have anything in there but mine is

Him:       Just go to work, and sort that out later, I didn’t change it

Me:        Okay, well I am off to a locksmith; I am forcing this fucking thing open today.

Him:       Why (Why are you questioning it?)

Me:        Because you have nothing in there, I do, and I want to get inside

Him:       the code is ******

Me:        Why did you lie, I asked you if you changed it?

Him:       No you didn’t

Me:        I did, and you said you didn’t

Him:       Okay but I gave you the code, stop complaining now, and talk to you later I am busy

So I took down the code, went to work as I was already horribly late and when I got back home that night I went straight to the safe and keyed in the code, open the safe, and guess what I found… The power bank! The only place I know I would never have put it in, that is exactly where I found it. I also know I checked in there and it wasn’t there, so how did it get there?

So again the whole I don’t know where the power bank is story – I’m sorry I don’t buy it, but why on earth would he do this, why would he change the pin code, why would he lie, why would he take the power bank and when I ask about it why again would he lie and say he didn’t see it, why would he put it in the safe, why would he just do all these things… It didn’t make sense then and it still doesn’t. What is he expecting to happen, is there something behind this?

Is this by any chance normal?

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6 thoughts on “Is this acting?

  1. No, this is not a normal situation beignme.

    He has proven himself to be a liar, so don’t believe a liar and don’t let him make you think you’re the crazy one either. He’s gaslighting you and I would call him out on it if you feel you’re in a safe place.

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